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Divorce can be challenging in any situation, but when there are conflicts between the parties getting divorced, they can become even more complicated. This blog will share tips divorcing couples can consider to manage the levels of conflict during a divorce.
Putting the Children First
When children are involved in divorce, shielding them from conflict is vital for their emotional well-being. Here are some ways to support them through this transition:
- Avoid talking negatively about your spouse in front of the child.
- Offer reassurance so that they know although things are changing, they are loved and supported by both parents.
- Attempt to maintain a positive co-parenting relationship with your spouse. (Although maintaining a positive co-parenting relationship is the goal for many divorcing parents, it is important to note this will not always be appropriate for every couple immediately upon separation or while the divorce process is ongoing).
- Seek support from a school counsellor or programme if you feel your child needs extra support in processing the change.
Set Boundaries with Your Spouse
Some divorcing couples may wish to consider the following suggestions to ensure there is minimal animosity between them while the divorce process is ongoing:
- Limit communication: Opt for communicating via text or emails over face-to-face or telephone to help keep interactions calm and controlled.
- Stick to the facts: Focus on essential information that needs to be passed to your spouse, avoiding personal details or discussing reasons for the separation which may trigger an argument.
- Physical boundaries: If you are still living with your spouse until your divorce is finalised, consider agreeing routines or areas of the house to ensure you can live separately while in the same house.
- Be respectful: Divorce is a very emotional time for everyone involved, so treating your spouse with compassion could ease the emotional burden on you both.
Keep a Record
If your divorce is becoming contentious, keeping a thorough record may assist you if issues arise later. Here are some helpful tips for maintaining records which can be invaluable for your family law solicitor if disputes arise.
- Keep a journal or log: Document the dates and details of any significant interactions between you and your spouse to ensure you have a clear record of their behaviour.
- Save correspondence: Retain copies of important text messages, emails or letters that you may need to refer to in the future.
- Note financial transactions: Keep detailed notes of any significant changes in your spouse’s financial activities.
Build a Support Network
Divorce can make you feel isolated, but a strong support network will make a huge difference in helping you feel less alone and better prepared to handle the divorce process.
- Lean on trusted friends and family: Surround yourself with people you trust who can offer emotional support and understanding.
- Join local social groups: Find an activity/volunteer club in your local area to give you something positive to engage in.
Seek professional assistance: Some people going through a divorce may benefit from discussing their experience with a therapist or counsellor
Know Your Legal Rights
Working with an experienced family law solicitor will help you understand what to expect and where you stand regarding child arrangements and asset division upon divorce.
If you are struggling to manage conflict in your marriage or throughout the divorce process, our family law solicitors are here to help. Contact us to speak with a member of our team.
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