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Divorce is never an easy process to go through, even if it is amicable. Whilst a divorce is often a necessary step, it doesn’t mean that it isn’t painful; a divorce ends hopes and dreams of forever, separating you from someone who hoped would be your partner for life.
What is a divorce?
A divorce is the legal ending of a marriage. The process of getting a divorce can be straight forward:
Seeking legal advice:
Whilst this step is not mandatory, instructing a solicitor will help to remove the burden from you and will improve the likely outcomes of you divorce
The application:
One of both parties in the divorce will submit a divorce application to the court using the HMCTS portal.
A reflection period:
The courts require a 20 week reflection period once both parties have responded to the divorce petition.
Conditional Order:
Previously known as a decree Nisi, the applicants will apply for a conditional order following the 20 week reflection period. The courts will review the application and grant the order.
Final Order:
You must wait a further 6 weeks and then you can apply for the final order, legally ending the marriage.
Why might a divorce be so difficult?
A divorce process ends the marriage and with that, it ends hopes and dreams and forever separates you from someone who you hoped would be your partner for life.
In the mix there may also be children, who you will both be desperate to see and then the forever thorny issue of finances. The divorce process is enough to turn the greatest pacifists.
What can you do if you are finding a divorce difficult?
A difficult but worthwhile thing to do is to remove yourself emotionally from the process. Understand that unpleasantness is an inevitability of the divorce and that you should not take it personally. The reactions of your ex are aimed at your situation, but the situation can’t be shouted at, so it is you that has to take the full hit of the anger and resentment.
Understanding that the anger is a normal human emotion in the situation will help you to not retaliate and make the situation worse. If you have to then cut all communication with your ex other than at times when you have to both be present for the divorce hearings. If you are sharing custody of children then arrange for pick-ups and drop-offs to be done by a friend or relative, or at school. Fighting back and arguing only gains a brief moment of satisfaction, whereas in the long run you will be happy that you kept your cool throughout the process.
Choosing a good divorce lawyer will help you to let go of the legal aspects so you can concentrate on your life. It is very hard to be at the end of someone’s anger, but not taking it personally and ignoring it will help you to remove some of the pain of your divorce.
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