How and why to mark the finalisation of your divorce

Divorce parties are all the rage. You to have cake and cava, and if you want to end up in the tabloids, you can also spend many thousands of pounds to mark the end of your marriage.

Of course, huge blow outs aren’t for everyone and certainly won’t be in everyone’s budgets, but doing something to mark the final moment in your divorce is a healthy thing to do, no matter how you feel about it.

Why do something?

The moment your divorce comes through is the first moment of the rest of your life, whether you want it to be or not. For those who are not over their marriage marking it in some way can help with acceptance and acceptance is the first step to recovery. If you have not yet accepted the end of your marriage, then this is your opportunity to do so.

For those who have been wishing the divorce to come through, it is a chance to reflect on the marriage and lessons learned before moving on to the next stage, hopefully not repeating past mistakes.

What to do?

Deciding on what to do to mark the official end of a marriage will depend on your finances, your family situation and your social circle.

If you have a strong social circle, then inviting friends over for an evening will give you all a chance to reconnect, talk about the past and future and have a lot of fun. Sometimes socialising with friends can be the best medicine. Having friends over to your home may be better than going out in public, as it will give you the privacy you need to talk openly and honestly about marriage and divorce.

Unfortunately for some, divorce can rock their social circles, so they may want to mark the end of their marriage with something more private and personal. It can be big or small. You could book yourself a holiday away somewhere and relish the opportunity to choose somewhere without consulting anyone else. Or, you could choose your favourite film and your favourite takeaway and have a joyous evening alone doing exactly what you want.

However you choose to mark your divorce, do something that is personal to you, that gives you a moment to think about it and to think about your future.