After the divorce process has finished and the dust has settled the day-to-day realities of becoming a single parent can start to take their toll and adjusting to this is not easy. Not only will you have to adjust to a whole new way of life, but you will also be dealing with children that are also adjusting to a new life. A new set of pressures come with being a single parent, but there are also hidden advantages.
The financial pressures of being a single parent are the most obvious pressures that you will have to deal with. Having to support your children and run your home solo is no easy task. That is why it is imperative that you come to a good settlement with your ex-spouse in order that you receive support. Even if it is a small income, it is still better than nothing.
If you do have a job or when you go back to work child care is the next biggest pressure. Make use of friends and family and any after-school clubs. If you are on a low income then you may be entitled to government help for child care or check with your employer to see if they offer child care schemes.
You will find that restraints on your time are tightened when you are a single parent. Even if your ex-spouse only had a minimal involvement with the child care you will still miss the odd break for simple things such as a shower.
It is important that you make time for everything that is important to you and make enough time for your children so they adjust to their change in life. Get as much as possible done in advance, from packing school bags to batch cooking meals.
Chores can take over your life if you let them. From getting the children up to breakfast to school runs to cooking and cleaning and homework, there is a lot to do when you are a single parent. Therefore take as much help as you can and don’t get too hung up on any of the non-important things. Take some time at weekends or each day to switch off from everything and have some fun with the children.
Although being a single parent comes with a lot of challenges and at times it will be difficult, there are also advantages that you will soon discover. You get to make the decisions relating to everything from what to eat to how to look after the children. If you are used to doing the house keeping and cooking for both you and a spouse you will notice a lot less work when there is not another adult to look after in the house. Once you get into a routine and feel financially stable both you and your children will soon adjust to your new life and start to have a lot of fun again.