How to co-parent well

Co-parenting well after a divorce is a challenge. Many couples now share their children almost 50 – 50, compared to a few years ago where traditionally the mother would keep the children and the father would have them every other weekend. Co-parenting involves both parents laying aside their differences and still parenting together, even though

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How to reduce the cost of your divorce

Getting divorced can be a costly process. You will have heard horror stories in the media of couples racking up legal bills into the millions, which adds to the stress of an already stressful time. However, divorce doesn’t have to be as expensive as many people think it is. There are ways of reducing the

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How to ask for a divorce

Asking for a divorce is one of the hardest things that people will ever do. If your spouse is not expecting it, or you have not previously discussed divorce, then there are ways that you can ask that will make the process smoother. It is important both for you and any children that you have

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How to get through Christmas when divorce is on the cards

January is divorce season. Every year the number of divorces dramatically increases directly after Christmas. Some couples may fall out over the Christmas period, following drunken fumbles with work colleagues at the Christmas party, arguments with the mother-in-law, or added financial pressure and the expectations of the festive period not living up to the reality.

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How to successfully divorce in middle age

Divorce is something that can happen at any age and each age group has its own problems to work through. When you divorce in middle age, as opposed to being younger, then there are several factors to consider to ensure your divorce is a success. Financial complications The longer you are together, the more entwined

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Advice for young divorcees

When people think about a divorcee, they imagine someone who is middle aged, or older. People in their twenties do not tend to be associated with divorce. However, many people do marry and divorce in their twenties and these young divorcees have a whole range of other challenges to people who divorce later in life.

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Things to do when your divorce has been completed

Divorce is a slow process, but finalising a divorce can still come as a shock. After the split, the decision to divorce and the legal process, it is important and healthy to mark the moment when you are legally no longer married and put plans in place for moving forward. Accept your divorce Even if

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Social media and your divorce

During a divorce it is natural to want to surround yourself with friends and family. Social media is a very easy way to do this and many people benefit from their virtual support network. However, social media can also be damaging during your divorce and there are certain things that you should be aware of.

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How to cope with loneliness after a divorce

Splitting from a partner is always a shock, even when you knew that the divorce was coming. Your life after the divorce is bound to change in many different ways, but one of the worst things that can happen is that you end up feeling lonely. Loneliness isn’t a trivial thing. It can lead to

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Why you need to avoid comparing situations during your divorce

Why you should keep to your best behaviour during your divorce

Divorce doesn’t always bring out the best in people. In fact, it rarely does and it is not surprising that tempers will flair between two people who previously thought that they would be spending their lives together. However, during a divorce it is important that you are on your best behaviour. Succumbing to your instincts

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What to do if your partner is a bully during your divorce

In an ideal world when two people divorce, they both part amicably and discuss the settlement together, arriving at a conclusion that is fair to both parties and for their family. However, although this situation is far more common than the mainstream media makes out, sometimes it is an unrealistic goal. Unfortunately, when some couples

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What happens when your ex finds someone new?

After your divorce there generally comes a time when your ex will find a new partner. Different people will have different emotions about this. Sometimes it is relief, other times it is painful. However, there are some practical things that also need to be considered. Children When your ex starts a new relationship, generally the

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Why you need to avoid comparing situations during your divorce

Divorce is not uncommon. Currently around 42% of marriages end in divorce in the UK. However, it is not something that people know much about until they have to go through it. When couples do split and divorce becomes inevitable, it is normal for each spouse to seek advice and reassurance from those they know

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How to stay healthy after a divorce

Divorce will affect every aspect of your life in the immediate aftermath. With time you will be able to move on from most things, unless you allow your divorce to affect your health. At the most serious end of the spectrum, stress from divorce can be attributed to strokes and heart attacks, but even at

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How to explain parental absence to a young child

Lone parents to very young children have a lot of responsibility to cope with.  One of the most difficult things is explaining the absence of the other parent to your child as they start to notice a difference between their family and that of their peers. This could be once they start nursery or primary

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5 things to avoid after your divorce

Being newly divorced is an unsettling experience. It is easy to feel lost and not know which direction your life should now go in. There is no right or wrong way to recover from a divorce and everyone’s situation is unique. Yet there are some behaviours and actions that can harm your recovery process. Here

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How to move on after a divorce

It is not an overstatement to say that a divorce is like a death. Anyone who has gone through a stressful and unwelcome divorce will need time to grieve. There is a grief for what has been lost, a grief for the future plans and a grief for the affect on the family. Not giving

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