Monthly Archives: April 2017

How to move on after a divorce

It is not an overstatement to say that a divorce is like a death. Anyone who has gone through a stressful and unwelcome divorce will need time to grieve. There is a grief for what has been lost, a grief for the future plans and a grief for the affect on the family.

Not giving yourself time to fully grieve will only present further problems down the line and just like with death, there are several stages to go through when grieving the end of a marriage and it is only when you reach acceptance that you can fully move on to happy future.

Accept that the marriage is over

The most important thing to accept is that the marriage is over. This is easier said than done. There is a big difference between knowing and accepting. It is only once you have accepted it that you can look forward not back. Accepting that it has happened and you now have no choice but to move on will help you to make those first steps.

Accept that you may not know the cause

Over-analysing what went wrong is a common thing to do during a marriage break-up. However, it rarely delivers any answers and if it does it is unlikely that the answers will be helpful. Marriages end for a wide variety of reasons and the causes are never linear or easy to explain.

Wanting answers or explanations from your ex will not bring about further understanding or help you to move on. Before you ask anything of your ex decide what answer they could give that would help. It is unlikely that you will be able to think of anything. Instead accept that it has happened and you need to move on, rather than asking why and what if.

Accept that life goes on

Whether you want it to or not, life does go on. Accepting that you will not always be grieving and that you will move on to better and brighter things will help you to move forward quicker.

It is easy to cling onto the past if you did not want your marriage to end and clinging onto the grief can be a way to do this. Start looking to the future and picturing yourself in a happy situation and start working towards that. Accept that you now have to take control of your destiny will help you to move on from your divorce.

Are Pre-Nuptial Agreements Legal in England and Wales?

Pre-nuptial agreements, or pre-nups, are growing in popularity. They are often a feature of high profile, celebrity or high net worth divorces and discussed in the media. However, in England and Wales they are not legally binding. This can come as a surprise to divorcing couples who have signed a pre-nup. Should you still get… Continue Reading

How to maintain contact with grandchildren after the parents’ divorce

Divorce doesn’t just affect the couple, but also the children and extended family. Any grandparents who have had reduced contact with grandchildren after the parents have divorced will know this keenly. However, the law is on the side of grandparents and recognises the rights of children to have relationships with their grandparents, even if contact… Continue Reading

Situations when you may need a family lawyer after a divorce

Once your divorce is completed it is time to move forward with your life to better things and to wave good bye to your divorce lawyer and the family law courts. However, there are times when you may need to seek legal advice again after your divorce, as situations change and your children grow. Change… Continue Reading

Can a biological father claim parental responsibility after the mother’s death?

There are many different family set ups throughout England and Wales and many different legal aspects to consider. Family law covers a wide variety of situations and many of our queries are about children and confusion over parental responsibility of the biological father. Parental Responsibility All mothers automatically have parental responsibility of their children. Fathers… Continue Reading