Monthly Archives: June 2016

Why keeping calm can save thousands during your divorce

Anyone who is going through a divorce will quite rightly experience a range of emotions, from anger to rage and back again. You should allow yourself to have these emotions, but only in a controlled setting. Remaining calm during the processes of the divorce can save you thousands.

Although it makes great TV, a court room with two angry lawyers, barristers present and a long stream of witnesses is going to set you back at least £50,000 and do untold damage to your social circles. We strongly advise that you avoid this situation.

The DIY divorce

You don’t have to hire lawyers at all when you decide on how to split your assets and the routines for your children. You can decide on these yourselves and file all the paperwork yourselves. However, the paperwork is not easy and many couples who attempt this waste time and money having their forms sent back again. At our family law firm in Cardiff, we offer a fixed fee service services to couples who want professional help to ensure they are getting everything right. This is the cheapest way to divorce, but it only works when the divorce isn’t contested and both parties remain calm.

Alternative divorce methods

Staying out the courts doesn’t mean going solo. You can use mediation or collaborative law if you can’t split your assets yourselves. You have to stay calm for these methods to work, but you will be ensured privacy and control over the division and the length of time it takes, so your fees don’t start to snowball.

Don’t aggravate your partner

Easier said than done, but your partner is much more likely to stay calm if you stay calm. If you aren’t at the stage where you can talk calmly to your partner face-to-face, stick to written communication. Often friends and family can unintentionally make matters worse, by declaring your ex as the enemy and wanting to wage war. It is sweet of them, but it won’t help you in the long run.

Accept division

In every divorce case, assets are divided. It is rarely 50-50, due to the nature of large assets, but no one walks away with everything. Find a calm time and decide on what is important to you and what you can let go of from your marriage. Accepting that you will have to make sacrifices before the divorce is finalised can help you to stay calm and speed up your divorce, saving you a lot of money.

 

Who needs to know about your divorce

Going through a divorce is a very private experience. It can be hard to let people in and difficult to tell people about it. The important thing to remember is that you don’t have to tell anyone and everyone and expose yourself to rumours and gossip. However, there are some people that you should tell,… Continue Reading

Why acceptance is the biggest healer after divorce

At Grant Stephens Family Law in Cardiff, we see people in all stages of divorce, from the initial fact finding, before a divorce is even decided, to years down the line when they need advice about maintenance. We are also familiar with the full spectrum of emotion that comes with a divorce. It is very… Continue Reading

How to get a ‘blended family’ right

After a divorce the chances are that you could go on to meet a new person with whom you want to settle down. If you and this new flame both have children, you have the difficult task of trying to blend two families into one and it is not an easy task. Everyone’s situation is… Continue Reading